Healthy Dating Over 50
There are a lot of misconceptions about men and women dating over 50 and what they do and don’t want in a relationship. Healthy dating can be a difficult balance if someone is new to the scene after many years. Many assume that they are more mature, committed or even ready for a relationship. Here are a few of the top misconceptions that I think are prevalent today. What do you think?
Dating over 50 can be incredibly fun and rewarding. Most know more about what they want and what they are interested in however it can also be some of the most stressful times.
Misconception: Men and
women over 50 aren’t interested in sex.
Certain medical conditions that come with age like menopause or impotence which can make sex more difficult, but it doesn’t negate the fact that most people, regardless of age, still want and enjoy sex. In a survey sponsored by the North American Menopause Society, 51 percent of postmenopausal women reported being happiest and most sexually fulfilled between the ages of 50 and 65.
Misconception: Older men still love the cat and mouse game.
Even if they once were that guy, most grownup men no longer see the value in the challenge of chasing women. The woman-to-man ratio is in their favor and men don’t have to compete like they did in their 20s. Also, men’s hormones have mellowed and hopefully they have broadened their vision of themselves; reducing the need to rack up sexual conquests. Also, usually midlife men have more responsibilities and don’t have the time or energy for the chase.
Misconception: Men and women over 50 are looking
for someone wealthy.
Men and women over 50 are looking for someone who is at a similar financial level. They want someone who can carry his/her own weight. At this point in their lives, they prefer someone who will desire a similar lifestyle in terms of recreation and travel and can eventually share equally in expenses.
Misconception: Men and women become less selective.
Men and women are just as picky as they were when they were younger. They may be even more so now that they know what they want in a
partner. They may want a partner that is still attractive with a nice body or they may request someone who looks their age and whose body is less than perfect. People still look for a specific type which can become harder and harder to find once someone reaches their late 50s and beyond.
Misconception: Older women are at a disadvantage because men in midlife want younger women.
There are some men who are looking to date younger women as they are still interested in having children. There are some women who are interested in dating younger men as well. There are plenty of men who want to date someone their own age or older! The reality is that in most people who date age is a sliding number. What people really look for is attraction, and that can be a persona, a spark, a great sense of humor or a compatibility based on feeling really good when you’re with that person. Age is really just a number!